don't bring up bad things from the past, work on your self, rather then noticing things that your spouse isn't doing or did wrong, don't be negative, with everything that you do do it with love, remember the reason you two got together in the first place, don't make decision when you are mad, always do what is right not what you feel like when it comes to important decisions

To get out of the habit of bickering in public, make a point of drawing attention to it in private. Say, "I can only say this because we're alone" and then let fly. If you do it with good humour it actually becomes a source of amusement.

Don't start taking each other for granted, which is where most problems start. Spice things up a bit if need be. Role play can be a bit of harmless fun and give you both a giggle. Make time for each other, even if it's just a few hours on the weekend. Dress up and go out for a meal. Watching the pennies or having young children and no childminder is no excuse, make something! There are plenty of cheap and quick recipes on the net. Try lighting some candles, putting on some nice music and dressing up. Simply spend some time enjoying each other's company.

You have to work at it. I know that sometimes other elements of life get in the way and it's easy to let your relationship with your partner slide over the years. I know in my case hubby & I make a point of at least once a week eating together at the table with candles and nice music on in the background..no kids. It doesn't have to be a fancy meal it's more about making that time for each other. We schedule in other things as work and family life allow, such as sharing a bath together..going for a walk. but we both make the effort and to me he is worth it :)

Have a night away from each other and then you realise you how much you miss each other and want to make up for it when the other half gets back.